A man who has been bereavedResources for coping with bereavement 

When someone close to us dies in whatever circumstances, bereavement, grief and loss can affect people in different ways. There's no right or wrong way to feel. 
Some of the most common experiences include: 

  • shock and numbness – this is usually the first reaction to loss, and people often talk about "being in a daze"  
  • overwhelming sadness, with lots of crying 
  • tiredness or exhaustion 
  • experiencing new sensations or aches in your body 
  • anger – towards the person you've lost or the reason for your loss 
  • guilt – for example, guilt about feeling angry, about something you said or did not say, or not being able to stop your loved one dying 

These feelings may not be there all the time and powerful feelings may appear unexpectedly. It's not always easy to recognise when bereavement, grief or loss are the reason you're acting or feeling differently.  

Speak to a member of the team for support during this time by clicking on the button below, or by calling 020 3228 3563. 

Useful information

Experts generally accept that we go through 4 phases of bereavement or grief:  

  • accepting that your loss is real 
  • experiencing the pain of grief 
  • adjusting to life without the person or thing you have lost 
  • putting less emotional energy into grieving and putting it into something new 

Most people go through all these phases, but you will not necessarily move smoothly from one to the next.  

Your grief might feel chaotic and out of control, but these feelings will eventually become less intense over time. 

  • Unmind offers free access to NHS staff during Covid-19 crisis 
  • Virtual bereavement meet-ups
  • Specialist Filipino bereavement support service
  • BAMESTREAM Bereavement Support: free bereavement support service to people from Black, Asian and other minority ethnic (BAME) communities.
  • Bereavement Support Line (Telephone: 0300 303 4434) - Hospice UK are operating a free bereavement support line which can be accessed from 8:00am – 8:00pm, seven days a week. A team of fully qualified and trained bereavement specialists are available to support you with bereavement and wellbeing issues relating to loss experienced through your work. You will be offered up to 3 sessions with the same counsellor and onward support to our staff mental health services if you need.

Tips for coping for bereaved children

  • Get creative - write a poem or letter to your loved one who has died 
  • Make a memory box - gather together photos, letters and keepsakes from your loved one and put them in a special memory box that you can reopen and reminisce over when you need to 
  • Try to focus on the good times you share with your loved one 
  • Talk to people 
  • Take one day at a time 
  • It is OK to feel sad, angry, scared and to cry. It is also OK to feel happy and to enjoy things 
  • Remember that you are not alone, and that help is out there if you need it 

Help for bereaved children

Dying Matters exists to make talking about death less of a taboo. It provides information, produces resources and runs public campaigns to "open up the conversation around death, dying and bereavement".

The resources on the site are designed to be used amongst organisations, families, friends and by individuals to help them understand more about what happens when someone dies and how best to plan and prepare for end of life.